I used to think that loss was only related to the act of someone passing away, leaving the planet. I never thought that loss is an active occurrence and something that will happen time and time again.
Lately, I have been in a season of my life where I have lost a lot of people. In all aspects - due to death, distance, and reality. I lost someone close to me; it was their time, and they lived a good life, but sadly they passed away. Then, I lost some people who are still alive and well, but I lost them due to a matter of circumstance - in all honesty, reality. I always assumed that it's something I do that causes loss. However, I recently came to terms with the fact that loss is simply a part of life. I always felt guilty for grieving. I think sometimes in life, we have to take time to grieve. As individuals, we all process loss differently, and I don't think there's a right way about it. But the realization that I came to is that at the end of all the loss and pain, there has to be a point at which we move on and live.
We must live in honor of those who don't have the chance or luxury to do so anymore. We should live to inspire, to persevere with faith, hope, and all the good things that life is full of. I think sometimes when we lose people, we tend to hyperfocus on the bad, on the "if only I did this, if only I could do that." When essentially, sometimes the acceptance factor has to come into play. I choose now to fight every day to live life to the fullest, without feeling guilty about what and whom I have lost. I have peace knowing that I do all I can for people at the moment. At the end of the day, that's all we can really do - do what we can for people in our life, regardless of the longevity they may have in it.
Sometimes as humans, we look at people like investments. I don't know what to think about that. I think we can only look at people as people. And in life, we lose people. Loss is simply a part of life. We can't control it; we can't prevent the inevitable. It is just about the process of accepting it. With most things that we lose, we can't get back. People can come back, some people we will see in another lifetime. At the end of the day, I think it's important to cherish time in the present, enjoy the moments, and not hold onto things when loss happens. Loss is what it is. We can just try to choose to move on and live with peace and gratitude for what was. Aim to focus on what will be for the next season.
